The beautiful journey of entering Motherhood. Into a world of the unknown. Its challenging, there is sleep deprivation, there is tears, bucket loads of washing, poo explosions, sore boobs and the list goes on. But most of all so much love your heart could burst into a million pieces! Now that I have had my second baby I can’t help but reflect back on days with my first. Days with my first baby that felt never ending yet now, the months have flown and it feels a distant memory.
What would I tell myself as a Mother the first time when I look back? I have made a list of what I would tell myself if time turned back to me, the first time Mum.
1. ITS IN THE NEWS
On the day your baby is born have someone buy a newspaper for you to keep. In the future your child can look back on what was happening in the world on the day they were born. I wish I had done and I completely forgot second time round!
A mothers intuition is always right. This has proven me right on so many occasions. You may feel completely clueless to this new motherhood gig but 98% of the time your intuition is right
3. THOSE DAYS
It will get easier. Those first two months that feel like they will never end, suddenly they do and then you miss those days. The days where a breastfeed would take an hour is a great time to catch up on your fav TV shows! Don’t wish the early days away just take the time to soak all that newborn deliciousness in. If my toddler allowed I could’ve sat and cuddled our second all day long. And then get ready for the new challenges each age brings!
4. OH, MY BABY NEEDS THAT…
When you baby has more clothes than you and a headband for every day of their first year. Yes Im guilty I went overboard for my first! Looking back I wasted maybe a little too much on baby clothes. Clothes that would last up to six months if I was lucky! Clothes that sometimes only got worn once! The excitement pulls you in and you just can’t help the oohing and aahhing over all the pretty tiny pieces. Always ask yourself how much wear will my baby get? Will my baby be comfortable rolling around in this? Does my baby need another pair of shoes just because I think they look nice? Really your baby doesn’t mind what it is wearing!
5. JUST ROLL WITH IT
When comes to routine….relax a little!! I was way too strict on routine. I always wanted her in bed by 7pm. Before I knew it some nights I had spent two hours trying to settle her to sleep! Crazy right! This time round I am still all about routine however I have learnt to also go with the flow. If it is 8pm one night and she is still awake, its ok its not the end of the world. She will go to sleep…eventually
6. YOUR MOTHERHOOD JOURNEY
Social media in particular Instagram is full of picture perfect images. But remember they are just squares of moments in someones life. People chose what they want you to see. Don’t compare yourself as a mother to anyone else. Don’t compare your baby to any other baby. Im sure we all do it “oh but her baby is doing this already”, “why doesn’t my postpartum body look like that?” and so on….We are all living our own journey on this crazy ride. Remember you are amazing mother and no one else is you
7. I CANT DO IT
Those bloody hard days. They will hit you hard and fast. Somedays you will feel like a complete failure. Like you can’t do this motherhood thing anymore and all you wanna do is run away to some relaxing tropical island. Its ok and perfectly normal. Every mother has those days. Just remember tomorrow is a new day. In the end all the good days outweigh the bad
8. MY BODY
Be nice to yourself. Your body has just gone through nine months of growing a tiny human and then birthed it! That is pretty dam amazing. You will have bits that are jiggly, stretched, bumpy and sore. It will take time to heal so be kind to yourself. Feed your soul with positive thoughts and affirmations. Embrace your new found curves and don’t be too hard on yourself on fitting into your pre-baby jeans. It will in time happen
(image : the first day we took Aria home from hospital)